Romance and Honeymoons

Honeymoon Planning Tips From Expert Tom Marchant

The most memorable trip of your life? Your honeymoon, of course. The most pressure-to-plan-trip of your life? Your honeymoon, of course. Don’t fret lovebirds, we’ve sought the advice of a travel expert who knows how to plan epic honeymoons, including his own.

Black Tomato’s co-founder Tom Marchant has scoured the globe looking for unforgettable honeymoon destinations for his bespoke luxury travel company. One of our Travel’s Best Honeymoon advisors, Marchant gives us an inside look into today’s honeymoon trends and tips for making your honeymoon the perfect start to your happily-ever-after.


Tom Marchant
Tom Marchant scouting honeymoon destinations.
How did Black Tomato get started? What kind of travel experiences does Black Tomato specialize in?
My business partners and I started Black Tomato in 2005. We all loved exploring lesser-known places and wanted to create a travel company that offered people something different. We realized that there wasn’t another company out there that helped others to organize this -- to get off the beaten path and find unique experiences that aren’t just another stamp in the passport.

So 9 years later we’ve now got offices in London and New York and specialize in putting together one-of–a-kind experiences together for our clients. We like to put people ahead of the crowds discovering new places, whether that’s an undiscovered area of the rainforest in Papua New Guinea or a secret eatery that only the locals know of in Trastevere, Rome.

If the couple plans the honeymoon together, what are some surprises you suggest the groom can plan … or for that matter, the bride?
• Call your partner’s boss and secretly extend your honeymoon without your partner knowing.
• A new trend we are seeing is couples doing ‘buddy moons.’ Toward the end of your trip arrange for your friends or another couple to join the honeymoon.
• Work with a tour operator or travel agent whom you trust and can have a relationship with so they help plan really personalized, one-of-a-kind experiences. For example if your partner loves art, what galleries are in the area? Can you get them access outside public hours with the curator? Or if they love cooking, arrange a cookery lesson with a local chef.

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How early should you start planning your honeymoon? Should some of it be left open to allow for spontaneity or should it all be planned so there’s no stress?
• Early. Why add to the stress of the wedding by worrying about finding someplace on short notice? People do (and we often get them out of tricky situations) but if you can plan it early, it is one less thing to worry about and also something to look forward to in the middle of wedding planning stresses.
• Spontaneity is great and we love it, but this is one trip you have to get right. Moreover, pick the right destination and experiences and there will be opportunities a plenty to be spontaneous.

How can couples avoid falling into the “honeymoon trap,” which you have called “conveyor-belt style honeymoons”?
• Be open-minded to destinations. Work out what you really want/will make you happy on the trip. Too many people conform to what they think a honeymoon should be without really thinking what it’s going to give them.
• Mix it up. It doesn’t all have to be the same. Pair cities and beaches, mountains and jungle.  Same goes for mixing up times for luxe and times for modest (but as part of an experience like sleeping in the desert). Same with countries. People do “conveyor belt” because they don’t stop to think and at times lack imagination or the knowledge of just what is possible.

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What honeymoon trends are you seeing?
We are foreseeing an increase in couples looking to take longer honeymoons or ‘mega-moons.’ Choosing to take a 2- to 3-week or longer honeymoon combining several destinations ensures couples really get a chance to switch off and settle into married life. Another trend for honeymoons that we are seeing growth in is couples looking for more extreme and boundary-pushing trips. Whether it’s trekking or rafting expeditions in more remote locations, couples are looking for new, once-in-a lifetime experiences that they can share together.

What would you tell a couple who has 2 drastically different ideas of an ideal honeymoon -- one wants to lie on the beach in Fiji, the other wants to go on safari in Kenya.
Without wanting to sound like a relationship counselor, it really is about finding a sense of compromise. Often honeymoons work best with 2 contrasting experiences or destinations so when people have different needs, why not explore how you can combine them? For example, if your partner is a nature lover and dreams of a safari honeymoon, but you prefer more of a cultural/beach mix, maybe swap the plains of Africa for an alternative safari in Sri Lanka, where you can see leopards and blue whales, fascinating culture, and then head to the Maldives for some uninterrupted beach time.

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What was your honeymoon like? Would you have done anything different?
Fantastic, but possibly the hardest trip to plan ever given expectations set. To be fair my wife is a very relaxed traveler like me, but obviously we wanted to get it right. We sailed through the British Virgin Islands before heading (via a couple of nights in Jumby Bay -- a stunning Antiguan property) to Jamaica. There we spent some time at Goldeneye before heading down to Port Antonio to hang out at Geejam hotel, which still to this day is probably my favorite property in the world. Rooms are unique in a forest setting just a short walk down to a beautiful, hidden beach. It’s no wonder so many leading musicians, from Rhianna to Snoop Dogg, go here to record in the hotel’s private recording studios.

What’s your favorite romantic spot in the world?
It’s tricky to pin down just one. Romance also is determined by whom you are enjoying that place with. If I had to pick 3 (one city, one beach, one hotel and one adventure they would currently be). City: Helsinki Beach: Little Dix, BVIs Hotel: Leti 360, Northern India Adventure: Trans-Mongolian Express, stopping off in Mongolian’s Gobi desert to travel the steppe and spend nights reading by starlight as you lie under the most magical night sky you will ever witness.

About the Author

Kathleen Rellihan is a digital producer, writer and editor for TravelChannel.com. A Washington, DC, resident, Kathleen's love for adventure travel has inspired her to go dog sledding in Quebec, search for the northern lights in Iceland, learn to surf in Costa Rica and give elephants a bath in Thailand. Kathleen’s next adventure is volunteering as an English teacher in Haiti. Follow Kathleen on Twitter @k_rellihan.

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